“Who always texts first?” is the question behind half of all late-night overthinking. You don't have to guess: your chat already knows.
How we measure it
We split your chat into conversations. A new conversation starts when someone sends a message after 6 hours or more of silence. Whoever sends that message “texted first”. Across hundreds of conversations, the split is hard to argue with.
We also count each person's median reply time (half their replies are faster, half slower) and follow-ups: messages sent after 30+ minutes with no reply.
What the number does and doesn't mean
- 80/20 or worse usually means one person is carrying the contact. Not always a red flag: some people simply wake up earlier.
- A shift over time matters more than the total. The month-by-month chart shows when the split changed.
- Fast replies but no starts often means interest without initiative.
The full report pairs the numbers with the messages behind them, so “you always start” comes with the three good-mornings that prove it.
FAQ
What counts as texting first?
Sending the first message after at least 6 hours of silence.
Can I see who texts first for free?
Yes. The who-texts-first split is on your free card and stats.