A situationship is hard to read from the inside because every sign is ambiguous on its own. Put them all together, with dates, and the pattern usually isn't.
What you get
- A score out of 100 for how mutual and healthy it looks.
- A role for each of you, like “The Applicant” and “The Weather”.
- Six bars each: effort, warmth, fun, neediness, drama, ghosting, each with the messages behind it.
- Three turning points: the dates the tone changed.
- An honest verdict and one thing to do this week.
Pick your tone
Blunt (default) is a best friend who has read every message. Soft is gentler and more about needs than faults. Savage roasts the behaviour (the “should be”s, the 1am “wyd”), never the person. Same data, different voice.
Let them answer back
With Both Sides you can send them the card (not the receipts). They can say whether it's fair or upload their own export, and you both get a joint report.
FAQ
Is it a substitute for talking to them?
No. It's evidence and a nudge. The best next step is usually a direct conversation, and the report suggests one.
Can I make it less harsh?
Yes. Switch the tone to Soft at any time.